I started to post online about my upcoming book, Co-Teaching with Robots: Being Human in the AI Assisted Classroom, but I wasn’t prepared to talk to people in person about it.
Knowing how I have reacted in the past to these sorts of conversations, I should have expected it. I am horrible about talking about these things.
I’ll have friends and acquaintances ask me about something I’ve posted and I get incredibly uncomfortable. I try to minimize what I’m doing and I try to end the conversation as quickly as possible. I don’t know if I feel like I’m boring them or if I really am afraid to talk about my writing.
Are you the same way? Are you afraid to talk to friends, family, or even strangers about what you write?
Maybe I’m afraid of sharing my work and feeling rejected if they are bored by it or maybe I am really just uncomfortable with the attention.
There is this safety in sharing thoughts and ideas online. I have time to think about what I am going to say (or not say). I can choose when to login or not to login. I don’t have to be in the room with someone as they read what I’ve posted.
It’s much more intense to have a conversation about my book on AI when someone asks me about it.
And more and more that keeps happening. It is nice to have so many people responding to my work, but I also realize that not every book I write on their the next year is going to have the same audience, much less my friends and family.
This first book is for teachers. If you aren’t a teacher, then you really aren’t the target audience for it. It doesn’t mean you couldn’t or shouldn’t read it, but it’s not for you.
How do you talk to someone about a topic that you know they don’t NEED to know about?
And maybe that’s the problem. Maybe I’m just uncomfortable, because I expect them to only care about the topics I think they care about.
Whether we think we are talking to much, we don’t have anything interesting to say, or we’re just anxious, we need to practice talking about what we write. We need to believe in what we write. We need to trust that others might be interested in what we have to say.
If we don’t, we’ll never get passed these self-imposed barriers that stop us from connecting with each other. We can’t market that way. We can’t grow as authors if we live in fear of someone actually being interested in our work.
I’m going to work on this. I might even role play so that I am prepared when the opportunity arises. You might consider doing the same. I hope for your sake, you do better than me.
Good luck out there! I’ll see you next week.
—Jacob